The
LAST
LECTURE
lessons in living
Author:
Randy Pausch
Professor, Carnegie Mellon
with Jeffrey Zaslow
If you only had a short time to live, what would you do??
THE LAST LECTURE has it's solution - so get the book and open it to find out the why.
Some excerpts from The LAST LECTURE
1) When you're screwing up and nobody says anything to you anymore, that means they've given up on you.
2) Time Management:
- Time must be explicitly managed, like money.
- You can always change your plan, but only if you have one.
- Ask yourself: Are you spending your time on the right things?
- Develop a good filing system.
- Rethink the telephone.
- Delegate.
- Take a time out.
3) Advice for any lady, when men promises in romance :
"When it comes to men who are romantically interested in you, it's really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do."
4) A lot of people want a shortcut. I find the best shortcut is the long way, which is basically two words: WORK HARD . As I see it, if you work more hours than somebody else, during those hours you learn more about your craft. That can make you more efficient, more able, even happier. Hard work is like compound interest in the bank. The reward builds faster.
I would start by describing the two classic bad apologies:
- I am sorry you feel hurt by what I have done. (This is an attempt at an emotional salve, but it's obvious you don't want to put any medicine in the wound.)
- I apologize for what I did, but you also need to apologize to me for what you have done. (That's not giving an apology. That's asking for one.)
Proper apology have three parts:
- What I did was wrong.
- I feel badly that I hurt you.
- How do I make the better?
Yes, some people may take advantage of you when answering question the above mentioned third part of proper apology. But most people will be genuinely appreciate of your make-good efforts. They may tell you how to make it better in some small, easy way. And often, they'll work harder to help make things better themselves.
"What if I apologize and the other person doesn't apologize back?" I would tell them: ``That's not something you can control, so don't let it eat at you."
If other people owe you an apology, and your words of apology to them are proper and heartfelt, you still may not hear from them for a while. After all, what are the odds that they get to the right emotional place to apologize at the exact moment you do? So just be patient. Many times in my career, I saw students apologize, and then several days later, their teammates came around. Your patience will be both appreciated and rewarded.
Thankyou for this beautiful book!!
